Yea very backward for this ‘progressive minded’ society.
It’s not that I hate the idea of ‘aspiring women’. It’s just that I hate the idea of ‘not-so-domestically-skilled’ women. I don’t see a reason any woman should be proud of her bad/no cooking skills. I find it disgusting how it’s becoming a trend for city chics to say that they have bigger career aspirations and so they lack basic home-management skills.
Some years ago it used to be such that the man of the family used to be the key earning person of the family and the women managed the domestic work. It nowhere ever meant that the women were any less intelligent than men. But, it made so much more sense that way. The responsibilities were divided and an overall harmony was maintained. Though, eventually that concept of home-staying-mum lead to a very conservative mindedness in women as well. Part of a reason why a lot of hopeless traditions, concepts and ideas exist till the day is due to women. As example, the whole thing about how women shouldn’t enter temples during their menstruation. This thing exists in the society till the day more because of women themselves.
Yes, I agree both the genders should be treated equally. Yes, I also agree in this hardcore materialistic world if a woman is aspiring and wishes to apply her knowledge/ skills and make a strong social stand she has to be working. But, at the same time I see no reason why anyone should have to link the idea of ‘freedom’ with the idea of ‘economic independence’. I would like to ask them “What’s the point of your ‘education’ if the only reason you are/were ever studying was to get a job?” Don’t you clearly see some women working solely because that gives them a reason to escape from the house-hold? Basically there’s a kind who studied solely to get a degree and to get a husband who had an equivalent degree. That kind I would like to me is an ‘escapists’. They have never seriously done anything else but fooling around and running away from any kind of hard-work. Never cared about putting efforts into anything. (A worst story goes with most the Indian young men these days. But, that we will talk about some other day.) The only reason they keep on blah-blahing about how men should bear equal responsibility with domestic work and how men should be a hand in cooking or growing up the young kid is that the women themselves are running away from any efforts more than anything else.
Again, I am not trying to opine about if women should work outside of homes or not. No, not the point. But, a middle ground on this would be rather a happier place. The question is against the social structures and overall mentalities more than anything else. Wasn’t education suppose to make you wiser? Isn’t this ‘equality’ rather blurring the lines between the genders? Isn’t it confusing the simple things up? And if you think you can never be a ‘wiser’ or ‘successful’ woman without earning money, you are definitely an unenlightened degree holder.
On a side-note I belong to a family where my mother was a working woman. I am a working woman myself (I don’t have a family to look after though). Rethink if you think I am saying all this without having seen both the sides of the coin. However, I disagree with the idea of an exaggerating feminist society as much as a male chauvinist society. If this is the feminism the females want to live with where they shamelessly claim that they send their Lower K.G. kids to tution classes only so that they don’t have to look after them for that much amount of time, I would rather be a backward woman. Moreover, why do you want to be equals with men anyway? Why do you want to be alike? Men and women are different and isn’t it great that they are?